Last Updated on November 24, 2020 by Camilla Gill
Hi, I’m 29 and I don’t know what to do with my life. I don’t know my purpose either.
But, you know what?
That’s absolutely fine 🙂 and it will be OK FOR YOU TOO
NO MORE STRESS
Your twenties are usually spent stressing, feeling like YOU SHOULD be getting your act together and ticking off a list of goals to set in your twenties.
Do you know what the secret to getting your act together really is?
It’s figuring out that you don’t have to get your act together. It’s OK to live life and be happy without having to constantly worry about but “I don’t know what I want to do with my life.”
NO MORE GRADES
Do me a favour and think back to school for a second. Do you remember how EVERYTHING was centred around scores and grades?
Everything we did was given a grade. We were constantly chasing the next accomplishment, studying for exams.
Putting ourselves under SO. MUCH. PRESSURE.
And for what?
Then…we leave school but we seem to forget that we are not in school anymore.
This doesn’t make any sense because there are no more grades and we just have to do what we want to do.
BUT HOW DO I KNOW WHAT I WANT TO DO WITH MY LIFE?
Growing up I truly believed that I could do whatever I wanted with my life. As long as I worked hard.
The problem, though, no one ever actually gave me any useful advice on how to decide exactly what I wanted to be.
All I ever heard was ‘Do what makes you happy.’
What kind of useless, vague advice is that? I wanted to find my PURPOSE.
I wanted someone to tell me what to do what to do with my life. I wanted to someone to help me make a decision.
I felt envious that I was fortunate enough to do whatever I pleased and my parents never pressurised me into studying a ‘safe’ career degree. How frigging spoilt was I!?!
THE ‘DISCOVER YOUR PASSION’ BOLLOCKS
While I was researching this post I came across a lot of those passion-type articles.
You know, the ones where they tell you
‘Follow your passion and the money will come.’
Blah blah blah. How much do you HATE those articles!?!?
They are intimidating and can make you feel down on yourself. It can seem like everyone else has their act together.
Like YOU ARE A FAILURE. Because don’t have a passion or you don’t know how to turn their passion into an income.
It can often make you think you are alone in thinking “I don’t know what to do with my life.”
NEWS FLASH – Nearly everybody feels like this at some point in their life.
Over the years I have written countless lists of my interests. Trying to figure out a way to turn my hobby of baking cakes into a surefire path to make me rich.
I thought I was a FAILURE for not having some big passion to follow….
Sure, you might like baking or video games, but somehow you can’t picture yourself as a video game designer or owning a cupcake shop.
AND THAT IS OK.
One of my passions is pole dancing but surprisingly, I am not planning on becoming a stripper in a nightclub anytime soon.
Just because some people are able to turn their passions into their careers, that does not mean you have to as well.
A BIG SECRET
I’ll let you in on a secret, you’re not necessarily meant to be making money from what you’re passionate about!
You’re just meant to enjoy your passion, that’s it!
If you can make a living from it then that’s fantastic.
Equally though, please don’t beat yourself up if you can’t make a living from building miniature WWII replica battleships.
JUST DO ANYTHING!
To give you some inspiration on how to start living life for you. The story of the founder of The Body Shop, Anita Roddick, is fantastic.
Describing how she started her company, Anita says,
“I started The Body Shop in 1976 simply to create a livelihood for myself and my two daughters, while my husband, Gordon, was trekking across the Americas.
I had no training or experience and my only business acumen was Gordon’s advice to take sales of £300 a week.
Nobody talks of entrepreneurship as survival, but that’s exactly what it is and what nurtures creative thinking.”
I love it because it sums up what life is about, GETTING ON WITH IT.
Anita had to provide for her daughters. So, she got off her bum and started working. Selling cosmetics and toiletries.
Anita didn’t plan for The Body Shop to become the empire that it is, she was too busy living life to plan for it.
The moral of the story? Do any work. Any work at all. The dream job doesn’t exist, it’s a myth.
A LIFE PURPOSE DOESN’T EXIST
There are some people who read into things too deeply and believe that they need to find a purpose for their life.
Maybe it’s a lot simpler than that?
Time after time, highly successful people state that they found what they wanted to do in life when they shifted their focus from making money to helping people.
Living a purposeful life is always going to be infinitely more rewarding life than chasing material objects and fast-lived fame.
Helping others will give you that warm, fuzzy feeling at night. This is something that money can’t do.
By helping others, you will find that more doors will open up to you, and without thinking about it your life will start to develop and IMPROVE!
Focus on LIVING LIFE and stop thinking too much about what you’re meant to be doing.
Not everyone is meant to be rich and famous, but everyone is meant to be a good person.
I’ve got to 28 now, and honestly, I don’t know what to do with my life.
And that’s OK with me.
I help others get started making money online and living a life more authentic to them.
I am happy being me. AND YOU CAN BE TOO.