Think about it for a second. The reason why you’re life isn’t as great as you wish it to be is because you care about what other people think…
From the moment you wake up to when you go to bed. The way you choose to live your life is influenced by caring what other people think about yoiu.
The clothes you wear, the job you do, what degree you studied, your cellphone, your Instagram… you chose them all because you want people to think a certain way about you.
It’s important to you not to be judged or looked down upon.
So, you end up choosing a career you hate just because it pays well. You drive a car you can’t afford the repayments on.You have a boyfriend you don’t even love.
But hey it’s all worth it if other people think you are doing well right?
The most important thing in life is that YOU like who you are and what you’re doing with your life. The opinion of other people should count for ZERO.
But how to stop caring what other people think? That’s the hard part right? To retrain your brain to stop caring and start focusing on yourself.
A large part of this comes down to self-esteem. I wrote a list of my top ten books to boost self-esteem recently.
However, there are also other ways to figure out how to stop caring what other people think about you. Here are 4 easy ways to get working on it!
How To Stop Caring What Others Think
Imagine if you stopped caring what others think for a second. Your life would be completely different.
You see, when you finally stop caring about other people’s opinion of you, you’re free to live your life how YOU WANT.
It might mean becoming a digital nomad!
You can lie to yourself if you want.
Pretend that the reason why you’re not chasing your dreams is due to time or money issues.
Or you could face the fact that…You care what others think.
You’re placing other people’s opinion above your own and it’s time to STOP. Who is living your life, you or them?.
1. No Regrets
The number one tip I can give here to stop caring what other people think is to focus on living a life without regrets.
Regret is the driving force behind any decision I make. ALWAYS think of regret.
If you died tonight would you be happy with how you lived your life?
I do this with everything in my life, from job decisions to ending relationships, even making purchases.
By asking yourself if you would regret NOT doing something, you can quickly work out if it’s truly important to you… or if it’s only important to other people.
2. Change Your Environment
You’re a product of your environment.
We are awake for say 16/17 hours a day. Your brain is constantly processing new information and you are subconsciously absorbing everything being said around you.
If you’re not happy with your life then chances are, that there is a lot of negativity in your environment.
Most likely, a lot of people in your life are negative and are living their lives RULED by society’s expectations.
When you spend time with negative people, do you know what happens?
YOU BECOME NEGATIVE TOO.
It might be time to take a hard look at the people in your social circle. Limit time with anyone who is having a negative effect on your life.
Finding positive people to fill your life can be hard. If you struggle to spend time with positive people for whatever reason, turn to social media.
I don’t mean become a zombie, mindlessly scrolling. No.
Instead, actively search for positive role models and mentors to follow on Instagram and Facebook.
Spend your time commuting reading about amazing success stories of people who followed their dreams and succeed.
Stop following any social media account that doesn’t make you feel better about yourself after scrolling their feed.
Be ruthless. You deserve to feel good!
3. Everyone Has An Agenda
Once you realise that everyone is looking out for themselves it life, it’s easier to understand why people do mean things. It becomes even easier to stop caring what others think about you as well!
The reason why your Mum wants you to be an accountant is that she wants you to be financially secure for the rest of your life. Your Mum wouldn’t you to be struggling for money.
It’s time to recognise people are selfish. Your partner might not want you to go back to school because that means you will have to give up the company car and gym membership benefits.
Younger people in particular worry about their peer group gossiping about them behind their back.
When you realise that people who have time to gossip are the ones who aren’t all that happy, life is a lot happier. Most likely they have their own issues and are projecting their unhappiness on to you. Their gossiping is a reflection of them, not you.
4. It’s A Process
Learning how to stop caring what others think about you is a process.
It takes time and it is also something that needs to be practised every day. Think of it as an extra habit to add to your self care toolbox of tricks for a happier, more authentic life.
Remember these 4 tips or write them down and look at them daily.
1 Drown out the noise and focus on you.
2 Assure your loved ones that you will be OK.
3 Remember your life is for you and no one else.
4 If you’ll regret not having chased a dream, chase it.